These are the famous first words of Dyfan after he first met me onboard the Logos Hope (part of the organisation Operation Mobilisation) in October 2015. Little did he know then, what God had planned ahead for his time onboard the ship. We first starting getting to know one another while we helped prepare, and take part in, a murder mystery party for ship's company. From then on, we took part in the drama group together and started to get to know each other more. We had to be careful on the ship not to break their rules about spending too much time with each other. It was very difficult, especially as it was becoming obvious to everyone that our feelings for one another were growing. By January 2016, we both realised, but didn't tell each other, that we had fallen in love with another one. It was the one big unsaid thing between us as I finished my time on the ship.
In September, I sadly left the ship and Dyfan behind too. A month later, on the phone, Dyfan finally told me he loved me, and I too. But we decided to commit our feelings to God, and wait until he came home to see where God would lead us. We kept in touch while we were apart, I had the opportunity to visit him in the November in the Canary Islands too. In September 2017, he finally came home and I was there to meet him at the airport. I was nervous, but it felt like we had never been apart and nothing had changed. In October, during his first visit to my home in Oswestry, we visited the ruins of Valle Crucis Abbey in Llangollen. There, on a bridge over stream, he asked me if we could start a relationship together. I was expecting him to take a few months to settle back into the UK after his time on the ship, but no. He only waited 2 weeks! I was ecstatic!
5 months later, in March 2018 we got engaged! Knowing Dyfan, I wasn't surprised to discover that his proposal was very detailed, and very carefully planned out including a treasure hunt with clues to answer. His whole family was involved in it too! After a morning of walking around Cardiff answering clues with his Mum and sister I finally found Dyfan in a forest dressed in his smartest attire. He led me on a short walk through a forest, to a bridge over stream, where he got down on one knee and asked me to marry him!
I found my dress in Copplestones Bridal in Chester, and it wasnt what I had in mind at all. I didnt want a big train or sparkle...but fell in love with the dress as soon as I tried it! It wasn't what I had in mind, but for a winter wedding it was perfect, especially with the addition of the fur bolero. For Dyfan, he has a unique personality, and he didnt want just any boring waistcoat. He wanted to stand out, it had to have something different about it, and the royal blue scrolls went well with his navy suit, and fit the theme perfectly. The bow tie was my choice, because I love them on him!
I grew up attending St John's Church, Hartford in Cheshire, and I found Pryors Hayes while researching wedding venues in the local venue. For the reception, I was looking for somewhere that had character that wasn't a boring function room. Pryors Hayes certainly had character and charm, with its oak beams (that we dressed in fairy lights) and it also had enough space for our guests and for dancing too!
As Dyfan’s first language Welsh, the wedding service had to be completely bilingual which was very exciting. The readings from the Bible were important ones for our relationship, about not being anxious and trusting in God with everything. The legal vows were done in English and the ring vows were said in Welsh. We could not word the vows better than the traditional one' "for better or worse, in sickness and in health, for richer, for poorer, till death us do part". We really meant it when we said those words, and it forms the core of our philosophy as a couple. The speaker at the ceremony spoke about self-sacrifice being a core aspect of marriage, just like Jesus' self-sacrifice for us, so should we to each other. We will both never forget this encouraging and challenging message. As we signed the register, we had a Welsh quartet performance, followed by a modern worship song performed by my close friends and colleagues. There was just a huge feeling of joy throughout.
We went for a nautical, sea, ship theme because of the Logos Hope. Its where we met and is a very big part of our story! The flowers and bouquets, and all the decorations, were done by my Mum, Nan, and some ladies from my local church. I am very grateful for the hard work they all put in, it was perfect!
Working with Louise Jacob Photography was fantastic, she was very friendly and relaxed. Right from the moment we met her for coffee, we knew she was the right person to capture our special day. We really loved her being part of it. I loved her style of not too many posed photographs, with the majority of photos being candid. I can wait to see what the final image look like! She was willing to travel to our different locations and capture every moment which was great too
Our first dance was to Everything by Lifehouse, and I choreographed it myself. On the ship, one of the dramas we performed frequently together was a wordless drama illustrating the love of God, to the song Everything by Lifehouse. Again, the drama was a big part of our time on the ship so we wanted to include it in someway. We used the song, and some of the moves from the drama, to choreograph a dance especially for our wedding.
We enjoyed a ceilidh in the evening, followed my some disco music which my Uncle Mark arranged. Most people took part in the ceilidh and had immense fun, especially the dance 'Strip the Willow' We didn't see the disco, but it sounds like everyone had fun!
If you could give any words of wisdom to a couple planning their marriage and wedding day, what would they be and is there anything you would do differently?
Firstly, the key for us was just to relax! Yes, there are lots of details to pull together, but getting stressed and anxious wont be helpful. Relax, and enjoy the journey and experience of planning the wedding. You will enjoy the day more if you have relaxed in the process. On the day, my husband and I were so relaxed with no nerves, just excitement and joy! Secondly, before the wedding day, every small detail seems really important, but on the day itself you will not have time to take in the details you may have stressed so much about. Your mind you will be on each other on the day and not the details anyway! Somethings may go wrong, but that is ok! Your marriage is the most important thing at the end of the day. Finally, get a team to help wth preparattion, dont go it alone.
What was your favourite part of the day and why?
All of it!